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The spiritual side of BDSM

Healing, evolving, connecting on a deep level and more!

Oh yes Goddess is on a roll today and apparently the Teacher in Me is strong in Me today. Now before you begin to read this “out loud meditation” on a deep subject matter, I want you to remember that all I am offering up to you here is food for thought and a bit of My Wisdom that was born out of MY personal experiences in BDSM over a couple of decades.

You are as always free to disagree with Me and of course reject it out of hand. You are on your own Path within BDSM and may not be able or willing to share one similar to mine.

For the remainder of this writing I will dispense with the online tradition of Capitalization for Dominant Individual and lower case for the submissive side and will revert back to standard writing.  I am pretty sure that the intelligent individual can figure out when something comes from the TOP of covering position and the bottom or to be covered one. NO that is not sexual – we are talking about a form of intercourse but not the fucking type.

One of the many reasons why people unfamiliar with BDSM practices see it as something vilified, immoral, dangerous and abusive is because they are only presented with a lot of the kinky play aspects of it in pornographic literature, films and “trigger for arousal” geared towards often time male thinking online content.

For the unschooled novice or unfamiliar to BDSM bystander a lot of what we do can appear to be very damaging and abusive on both a physical and mental level indeed. Let’s phase it for someone with any type of psychology training a lot of the things we say and do is borderline mental illness behavior on both sides. There are definitely parallels in it if things are done outside of consent and safety which would push them into that realm. Ah but there is where we are entering the arena of the title above.

Human sexuality and desires to experience ourselves within the confines of a safe and consensual environment with another Adult whom we feel a measure of trust towards can be extremely important for our emotional and mental health as well as our personal evolution in becoming our most authentic self.

As the ying and yang towards and for one another in a good match and with much care for the welfare of each other we create a safety zone in which each side is released from the “morality” and “society restraints” of a society that plays by very different rules then we do.

We are not “broken” as so many people assume, but very often we have been scared emotionally in some way by what we have been told by outside influences and overly dogmatic upbringing makes us “bad”, “unworthy”, “sick” and “unlovable”.  It closed many people off to reaching out to someone else and allowing them to see us for who we truly are on the inside or perhaps could be in caring circumstances.

A strict but ultimately caring which is build on consent, trust and safety, as well as structure and ritual D/s relationship and/ or “intercourse”  removes this necessity to hide what we want, need and are starved for – the D/s intimacy that comes with a good match – and allows us to blossom into the person we are on our most authentic core level.

We begin to remember and learn within this structured and safe environment that there is nothing wrong with us for having a desire to be something other then what society tells us is ok. We are able to explore and discover what we truly want, what makes us happy and yes even find our limitations and own moral compass.

If you remove the kinky actions of the BDSM play and focus purely on the interaction, rituals, respect, intimacy and trust that is the core of every good D/s relationship you’ll discover that a rebirth of self and a deep healing takes place. It becomes without dogma a spiritual experience of learning to love, trust, embrace fully and be the catalyst to evolving for ourselves as well as our D/s opposite and / or partner.

It is an irony for many when they see someone in a strict but caring D/s relationship speak of always putting each others welfare first and providing an absolute form of freedom via enslavement. We are always so focused on fighting for our rights that to hear someone giving their control and “rights” over to another person and to willingly become dependent on them for their good will, guidance and benevolence it is hard to understand.

Living a life in a selfless manner that pleases the one to whom you surrender to is actually a selfish action in and of itself in a twisted sense of human desire. For that type of person it is acting in accordance with their deep seated need to be controlled, guided, be useful to and have a deep purpose when behaving in such a selfless way. Their need is fulfilled by the one who allows them to hand that control over, give up those decisions, and is willing to pick up the reigns over their life and often deeply hidden desires and needs. In the same way someone who feels a deep seated desire to take control, to guide with a strict but caring hand, to discipline and condition, to be the catalyst and inspiration for that other person to become a better and more authentic version of themselves, is acting in accordance to their true nature and is at the same time providing a selfless service to that person by becoming their purpose to be their very best for them.

It looks black and white, but it is actually ying and yang, symbiotic and deeply spiritual in nature.

We talk about destroying, abuse, forcing them in often very callous ways (apparently to the outside) but those are all fractions of the sentences that should be said in full to give the true measure of what is going on within that intimate and private relationship in which side is fully embraced of themselves and each other.

Let me give you a few sentences in full as I see those words above from the side of the one taking control and giving strict but caring purpose, structure and dominance over the one kneeling in full surrender to Me and My will.

Again remember this is purely how I see it and how it feels to Me.

I will destroy within you the false sense of being bad, worthless, unlovable, undesirable and the pain of your upbringing as well as your bad habits that are cause of self-sabotage and which keep you from finding and blossoming into your best and most authentic self in order to build you up into someone of whom I can be proud of, take great joy and pleasure in, and who can find deep seated satisfaction and healthy pride in living up to his or her purpose as was placed within your own nature and which is part of your true authentic self.

See how different that sounds?

In return you will surrender yourself to Me, trust Me to know what’s best for you, give me honesty and obedience. You will make My happiness, My needs and desires your priority. You will bend but not break your spirit beneath Me and give Me what I need to take control over you as My sweet creature which I am pleased with and feel worshiped by. You will place Me upon that Throne and lay before Me all of the gifts (including yourself) that are yours to give. That includes your fears, your worries, your dreams, your desires, your needs, your obedience, your trust, your worldly possessions (to a point) in order to assure your Goddess is comfortable and well provided for, for SHE now takes you into her hand and gives you what you need most of all. Acceptance and guidance of your most deeply hidden self and will help you heal, evolve and become that GEM that right now is oh so rough.

I will abuse you of the notion that without sacrificing your Ego and without your willingness to give yourself to Me in perfect trust and perfect love as is due to me as your Goddess on high, that you are able to find your way into that deepest darkest core of yourself and become that which you need to be in order to be complete and satisfied.

I will force you into opening your eyes and sink deep into the darkly hidden places of your being to face that which you are and learn to not only accept it but embrace it. I will force you to go into those dark shadows that scare you so much by allowing you the bright light of my control and guidance so you can find your way always and can finally come home where you belong. With Me!

The only thing I truly ever force anyone into doing is to seek within themselves who they truly are and admit to themselves that which it is they need. I cannot and will not force a person to take an action that is truly abhorrent to their nature or the bully them into submitting to me. That is something you must lay willingly and eagerly at my feet and oh yes it will scare you and make you feel vulnerable, but that is what you need to be.

Can you see where it goes a lot deeper and is very spiritual in nature? It is truly a path into your very own self and a reemergence of your authentic self without feelings of guilt and shame. You are made whole by this and can find contentment and acceptance within this once you have done the journey into yourself. The Voices that tell you that being different then what people tell you you should be may never truly be silenced, but they will no longer be able to hurt you or harm you. They will simply no longer hold power over you and you can finally find that home with the one that knows and understands you and doesn’t judge you ill for it.

For those of us who are the ones who will take the power into our hands and who will become the foundation and safety upon which our subs and slaves can kneel upon, we have to do our own journey into ourselves and discover if we are truly willing, able and happy to carry the responsibilities and weight of our standing.

You always just see, hear or read about the great and amazing privileges that come with being THE ONE. We sweep the flip side of that under the table because it destroys an illusion for so many. That is one of the reasons why we have so many people out there who throw words like owned around without even knowing what that means.

We see the strong arm act and the constant tough talking bitch act as a representation of what a Mistress (or yes Master is), but the reality of it looks very differently.

Again please remember that I am only offering you my insight on this.

One of the biggest complaints is that new subs are oh so needy and it annoys the one who has taken control to no end. There is a constant strain on your time and energy from them. A constant desire to be close to you. An overwhelming need to be acknowledged, guided, instructed, and reassured. A new sub is very much like a child learning to walk, talk, and how to interact in a proper way with you.

You are going to have an immense amount of patience with them for a while until they get their submissive footing. You are going to have to be able to discern and be comfortable with knowing when to discipline them and when to hold them safely in your arms to let them know they are safe. That will change with time as they progress in their journey beneath you, but for the first year it’s utterly time consuming and extremely taxing on your energy.

Are you able and willing to put them first in that way and to give this large amount of energy and care, or are you too selfish to take your responsibility serious? Does this feel like an overwhelming burden to you or does it feel natural for you to take them by the hand for a while and establish that structure for them that they need to feel safe?

Can you make decisive decisions and carry them out? Can you set rules and when necessary enforce them without feeling guilty or overloaded by them? Can you carry out a consequence to an action even if you know that action was taken with good intentions but goes against your rules? Can you instruct, explain and share yourself with them on a deep level that allows them to actually be able to trust you completely? Can you be reliable?

Those are just a few things you need to learn about yourself.

Can you admit when you were wrong or when you don’t know something? OH yes that is something you need to be able to do, since before you can control anyone else you need to be able to accept that you too are not infallible. You will make mistakes when you deal with this new human being under your control and to do something without knowing what it is you do will place them in harms way.

Are you willing and able to grow with them, to evolve, because dears you both will. With each experience you share you will both grow and evolve together or are you so set in your ways that there is no room for growth inside of you?

Are you able and willing to listen – really listen and to consider what you have been told, not just dismiss it as if it is worthless?

Does taking control, being in charge, guiding and providing strict but caring structure fill a need inside of you as well or are you just in it for the shallow benefits that it brings?

Does making a demand feel comfortable to you when it comes to those whom you have at your feet or does it make you feel apologetic and guilty?

Oh and hardest of them all, are you willing to be vulnerable as well and risk having your heart broken? In order to take control you have to be willing to do both as well.

Spirituality is about Balance as well!

First of all you will need to balance each other out and feed into each others needs. That’s why it symbiotic. Neither side goes without and that happens naturally if you are good match.

Second you need find balance within yourself. You need to be able to set boundaries for yourself and those who are your counter part. You need to find something that keeps your spirit flowing and the energy fresh.

Third you must continue to do your own journey as well. Both sides need undisturbed time in which they can recover from physical and mental strain. To reflect on the new developments that are going to be part of your relationship to one another. To realize and confront what makes you afraid or stops you from reaching that next level so you can sit down with one another and communicate that to each other without fear of it ruining what you are building.

Fourth you need to be able to step outside of your “roll” without stopping to be who you are so you can be the total of what makes you you. You are not “just” Dom/me or sub/slave you are also a regular human being with interests, priorities, responsibilities and more that are based in the regular every day world outside of the BDSM haven you are creating. Those will not magically disappear and now you need to be balanced enough to assure that you can be that as well without feeling guilty about making them important as well.

Fifth look to your own spirituality and higher divine power. Seek within you that which makes you a better human being and soak it up. I can not be your Goddess if I have no connection to my own higher power that replenishes me. I didn’t say anything about religion here, that is something totally different. We all have divinity inside of us, that is our best possible self and our purest thoughts.

Sixth remember that in the end it is still about about love. A D/s relationship at it’s best it one of the purest most untainted forms of love out there. If all things sexual are strip away from it it still endures and continues to grow because it is intimate and mutually embracing, giving, and accepting of each others strength and weaknesses.

Learning to separate the body and mind!

Our bodies are deceptive little things really. When your devotion as a submissive or your dominance as a Dom/me is purely hinged on sexual urges, visual eye candy, physical attractions, and satisfaction of the body it is doomed to failure in the long run because all those things change and are shallow connections indeed.

In order for things to last you need to seek to get to know each other on a deeply mental level, connect on an emotional level, and bond on a spiritual level as well. The ying and yang that is you forms a whole. Without beginning and end, infinite symbiotic satisfaction and feeling of being in the right place, complete acceptance and feeding of each others needs without guilt or shame. Being as one each from their place perfectly fitting to one another.

That does not happen overnight and takes a lot of effort and patience, willingness to push through the hard spots, and honest communication with one another away from sex, play and just spend in spiritual and devoted to each others betterment communion with one another.

Well dears that was a different look into BDSM I am sure for most of you and I now it challenges the mindset of many, but then what is growth without being challenged to become a better version of yourself daily.

Goddess Bella Donna